Everyone wants a happy and positive working environment. When you have a positive working environment, it brings industrial harmony, it increases efficiency, and more importantly, it gives a sense of belonging and personal satisfaction. In other words, you look forward to coming in to work because you have soaked yourself in that positive environment that produces the “feel good” effect. On the flip side of the coin, when you have a conflict taking place in the workplace, it creates negativity in the working environment. Unless something is done quickly, this will snowball into a bigger issue in the workplace, thus reducing efficiency and productivity in the Company. When you have this sort of working environment, people tend to stay away from it. I guess you can say that they are “disassociating” themselves from such negativity, thus a solution must be found quickly to arrest this issue.Mediation is becoming rather popular due to a number of reasons. Firstly, it is an informal process, it is confidential, it is less costly and the aim is to achieve a win-win situation which will leave both parties satisfied. In order to understand how Mediation can work effectively in resolving conflicts in the workplace, let us look at why conflict happens. Most of the time, conflict happens when parties stop communicating with each other. In a workplace, it could be between the boss and the worker. For example, say, John an employee who has been working for ten years suddenly starts showing up late for work. His boss, Bob, who is very strict on punctuality reprimanded John and refused to hear his excuses. Bob’s reasoning was that if you are intending to come in late for work, don’t bother coming in at all and waste precious hours at the Company’s expense. Bob felt that John should just take leave from work and sort out his personal issues and then return to work once that issue had been resolved. John felt Bob was arrogant and being unfair to him. To make matters worst, John and Bob were good friends but when it came to work, Bob had to put his friendship aside and do what he felt was right for the Company. Bob and John no longer talked to each other unless it was work related and it was absolutely necessary. Even then, the discussions were very formal without any hint of a friendly conversation. The situation had become rather awkward to the extent that both John and Bob started avoiding each other. When John sees Bob sitting in the café, John would go to another café or sit somewhere far away from Bob. As for Bob, unless it was necessary for him to talk to John, Bob would give his instructions to John via his secretary. Bob wants the Company to deal with John severely including dismissing John from the Company.
From the above example, you can see that there is a clear breakdown in the parties’ communication. Like most breakdown in communication, the main element that is preventing the parties from communicating is personal ego. In most of the Mediation seminars which I have conducted, I mentioned that there is an ego in all of us. If the person says he or she has no ego, that statement itself can be construed as an egoistic statement! In the above example, Bob felt that John owed him an apology because John had no excuse for being late to work and anything less than an apology would be deemed an insubordination in Bob’s book. On the other hand, John felt that Bob did not deserve an apology as John felt he did not commit a major disciplinary offence. John felt that Bob had failed to take into consideration that he had worked diligently for the Company for the past ten years and he had never been late to work until recently. John felt that Bob had been unreasonable, arrogant and a big bully. John felt that Bob was the one that should apologize to him and not the other way round.
Meanwhile, the senior management of the Company was aware of the conflict and realized that if they dismissed John, the Company could be liable for wrongful dismissal as the misconduct was not severe and no proper procedure of inquiry had been followed. At the same time, the management did not want to antagonize or offend Bob as Bob was an excellent manager and had done very well for the Company. The Company felt that this was more of a personal issue between John and Bob but nevertheless it was affecting the other workers and was creating an unhealthy environment in the workplace. So, the Company decided to engage a Mediator to resolve this conflict. A Mediator has to be someone who is neutral and independent, therefore the Company was not able to appoint one of its staff members to be the Mediator. With the consent of John, and Bob, the Company decided to refer the matter to a non-profit organization that provided Mediation services.
The Mediation organization will send a list of Mediators together with their bio data to the parties for selection. Once the parties have appointed a Mediator, they will sign a Mediation Agreement which contains essential terms and conditions such as confidentiality and non-disclosure. On the day of the Mediation, the Mediator will go through the usual Mediation protocol such as explaining what is Mediation; setting down the ground rules so that the Mediation is more focused; the importance of confidentiality so parties will be comfortable; and the Mediation process itself so that no one will be taken by surprise. The objective of the Mediation is not to determine who is right or wrong but rather it is to find ways to bring closure and to move forward.
At the Mediation, each party will give their views or their side of the story. In Mediation, we do not look at the positions of the parties but rather their needs. In other words, what can the Mediation do to meet their needs and to allow them to move forward in their lives. There is a misconception that a Mediator is like a referee in a ping-pong match where the Mediator merely acts as a middle person watching the process and conveying information from one party to the other back and forth. The Mediator’s job is certainly more than that. The Mediator must be able to elicit information from the parties to find out their real needs. Once the Mediator knows the real needs of the parties, then the Mediator can assist the parties to generate options that will be able to meet those needs. Mediation is just a process but to be able to mediate skillfully is an art. A skillful Mediator is one who can easily put the parties at ease, create rapport and get them to disclose their real needs and issues. I suppose one can say that the Mediator has to be an effective communicator and a “people person”. In other words, able to empathize and build trust with the parties.
In the above example, John and Bob will be able to talk to the Mediator in confidence and be allowed to vent their emotions. Once a person is able to release his or her emotions, the person will feel much better because the person knows that he or she has been heard and suddenly you don’t feel you are alone anymore. A skillful Mediator will use that to his or her advantage to assist the parties to resolve the conflict. Mediation is indeed an effective tool in resolving conflicts and disputes. Currently, most of the Mediation courses offered in Malaysia involve the teaching of Mediation protocols and procedure. I feel it would be more helpful if there are also courses on Mediation skills and techniques that will enhance the quality of Mediators in assisting the parties to resolve conflicts.
